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QUESTION:How soon should you date before that first kiss? I've been dating this guy going on 4 weeks now. He kissed me on my forehead a week ago. I thought that was special because it means he adores me. I want to take this friendship slow by waiting at least 3 months to become sexually involved. ANSWER:If you’re a woman, you should only have your first kiss when you feel like you want to.

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QUESTION:I am in a relationship with my ex again. In the beginning of it all he says how much he loves me, takes me to his family and does little things that make me happy like holding my hand when walking and meeting with me. What confuses me is that he doesn’t call me or text me. I do the calling because I love him. He has never surprised me with a gift but he'll never accept to totally

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QUESTION:I'm in a situation where I need to know if I should I stay in this relationship. I'm 40 years old and have been dating a man for about 9 months. 5 weeks ago he asked me to take out a loan for 1 thousand dollars. I could not believe it. I told him no. He blew up my phone because I did not do what he asked. He knows that I have good credit and extra money. He filed for chapter 13

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QUESTION:I am 33, dating a girl of 19. We get along well and share the same dreams/goals. I buy her clothes, take her on trips, cook for her and do her laundry. It got to a point we were feeling like a married couple. I liked that. She too it seemed. Now she wants to break it off and be with other men. I don't want that. What should I do to save this? ANSWER:Forget her! Come over and

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QUESTION:What is your take on men who refuse to go into stores that are targeted for women (i.e. Victoria's Secret, Wet Seal)? Is it because they’re macho? ANSWER:What would I call a man that didn’t want to go with his girlfriend to women’s clothing stores? I’d call him: a man! This has nothing to do with being macho. There are two types of men: the ones that love to go shopping with their

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QUESTION:I’ve been dating a married but separated man for over 6 months. When we first met he was separated from his wife of 8 years for 2 months. We really connected and enjoy dating each other. I’m taking it slow due to the circumstances. He has made no effort to file for divorce or even move his wife’s things out. She does not know of me and she wants to work things out with him-he does not. I

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QUESTION:How long is the "rebound" period?? I mean, how long does it usually take before a person can see someone else again seriously? ANSWER:I once read that for every year one is in a relationship, it takes two months to get over it. However, it once took me four months to get over someone I’d only gone out with for two months, so I don’t think there’s a formula. It depends on how deep

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QUESTION:How do you get over a break up when you're in love with someone who is not in love with you? I don't sleep around and drink, so other options, please. ANSWER:I’m glad you don’t want to sleep around or drink. Most people associate the period after a breakup with destructive behavior. The fact that you’re heartbroken is already hurtful enough-why make things worse by abusing yourself?

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QUESTION:What are some things that would make a guy not approach a girl when she has always shown an interest, is friendly and open to conversation with him? Does the saying still stand that if a guy really likes someone, he would do whatever to get the girl, even though he may be shy? ANSWER:Yes, if a guy is interested, he will do what he has to, to get the girl. The issue is that so many guys

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QUESTION:I am 24 years old and I have gone through three rough relationships - the last one being the worst. I dated a single mother who cheated on me with her baby's dad. After this happened, it was over. It has been two years and I have not gone out with any women since. I basically gave up. I often think that I need a therapy. I see someone but I just think negatively and don’t ask for number

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QUESTION:Most of the time, the more I like a guy, the less I will call him to talk or chit chat, or to invite him out. I would prefer that guys take the initiative in this. Do guys find this a turn off? Would they take this to mean I wasn’t interested in them? ANSWER:Guys are hunters by nature. They actually enjoy the thrill of the chase and the challenge. This is why spectator sports are

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QUESTION:Should I make any attempt to contact my ex to say that I forgive her. Our relationship ended badly with her going after someone else. I have all this resentment and it keeps me thinking about her. I have tried to stop dwelling over it but I feel it's the only option I have left. I feel I need to make peace.ANSWER:Have you heard the expression, “Forgiveness is a gift you give

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QUESTIONYou know the woman likes you, but right before you give her your digits, she says: "I'm really not looking for anyone. We'll have a beer or two once in a while but that's it." Why else would she ask for my number? I don't like to be that someone to have on the side, just in case. ANSWER:Well, I hate to tell you, but that’s exactly what she wants. If a woman is interested in a guy as

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QUESTION:I need to be more alluring...more mysterious. I'm very friendly and funny, but it hasn't gotten me anywhere. I'd like to keep that part of my personality, but I want guys to think I'm a bit mysterious too. What are some things I could do to appear that way? ANSWER:I think this is something that needs to be addressed. Girls today are letting it “all hang out” – in more ways than one.

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QUESTION:I am totally in love with this girl...and I know that I can't have her. Even if I did get her, it wouldn't be a very healthy relationship. Simply put, I could never trust her. She is kind of a "bad girl/player," which isn't even my type! Also, we don't seem to have too much in common, either...but I have never been so attracted to someone in my life. Why do I want her so bad?? I can't

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QUESTION:How do I tell a guy that I have feelings for him without making myself completely vulnerable? ANSWER:There is absolutely no way to tell someone you have feelings for them without being vulnerable in some way, unless of course you don’t care what their reaction is. I’m assuming you do, and you hope the feelings are reciprocal. You didn’t say if this is a boyfriend or someone you hope

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QUESTION:I really love my girlfriend, but I absolutely despise her friends. I just don't like them. What should I do?ANSWER:I find that hard to believe. You’ve heard the saying, “Birds of a feather flock together?” She must have something in common with them, something she sees in them that she identifies in herself. You’re either choosing not to see in your girlfriend the negatives you see in

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QUESTION:What does it mean when your boyfriend tells you that he feels smothered and like he can't breath around you sometimes? ANSWER:It means exactly that - he feels smothered. Are you a clinging vine? Do you let him have time to himself or do you need to know where he is every minute? Everyone needs time alone and/or with friends. No one likes to be constantly checked up on. How often do

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QUESTION:I was in a three year relationship and had plans to move in. From one moment to another my boyfriend’s feelings changed. He claims to be confused. He tells me he loves me but isn’t in love with me. He was the one to ask me to move in, he brought up children and marriage. I know he has been badly influenced by his friends, who are all single. I feel like I got the short end of the

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QUESTION:My girlfriend has gained a lot of weight since we started dating two years ago. It’s to the point now I’m not as attracted to her as I once was. I love her and have tried to drop hints but she gets very defensive. I started working out to be an example to her but I haven't seen any changes. I'd hate to lose her to it but I know I won't be happy if she doesn't try to change.ANSWER:

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QUESTION:My boyfriend won't kiss me, and only wants sex about twice a month. How can I get him to want me more? ANSWER:You can’t get someone to do something they don’t want to do. They’re either inspired to do it or they’re not. Has it always been like this or has the situation changed recently? If this is how it’s always been, things aren’t likely to change. You need to decide if this is

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QUESTION:I've been dating a man I met on the internet for 3 months. He has told me he is in love with me but his profile is still active. Does this mean he is a player?ANSWER:You don’t truly love someone after 3 months. You may have a deep affection for and feel happy around that person, but it’s not love with a capital L. I’d be wary of anyone that declared themselves so quickly. Someone

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QUESTION: How much time after beginning to date someone should a girl wait to have 'the talk'? I've been dating someone for a month now but don't know where we stand...whether we're just having fun or if it's monogamous. I want to ask but I'm not sure if it's too soon right now. ANSWER:When you first start to date someone, you need to keep two things in mind:Assume that person is seeing other

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