Back with my "ex"

QUESTION:

I am in a relationship with my ex again. In the beginning of it all he says how much he loves me, takes me to his family and does little things that make me happy like holding my hand when walking and meeting with me. What confuses me is that he doesn’t call me or text me. I do the calling because I love him. He has never surprised me with a gift but he'll never accept to totally break up with me. Can I hang on? Does he love me?


ANSWER:

The question is not "Can I hang on" but "Should I hang on"? Remember, actions speak louder than words. You will be a lot happier in life and in relationships if you give more importance to what people do and not what they say. Talk is cheap.

Does he love you? I doubt it. He doesn’t call or text, so how much can he really care? However, having said that, you are partly to blame in this situation. You say you do the calling. Author Pat Allen says: He who speaks first is male. This means, you are not letting him be the man when you are the one to initiate contact. Men are programmed to hunt and pursue. When you take that away from him, there is nothing to hunt. He’s probably confused because part of him wants to be with you and the other part doesn’t understand why he’s just not feeling it like he used to. This is why he won’t accept to totally break up with you.

You have the power here. Either stop calling him and give him a chance to pursue or end the relationship for good and move on.