QUESTION:
I am 33, dating a girl of 19. We get along well and share the same dreams/goals. I buy her clothes, take her on trips, cook for her and do her laundry. It got to a point we were feeling like a married couple. I liked that. She too it seemed. Now she wants to break it off and be with other men. I don't want that. What should I do to save this?
ANSWER:
Forget her! Come over and cook/do laundry for me. Sorry, I couldn’t resist. Okay, in all seriousness, she’s too young for you and you know it. Of course she wants to see other men. It’s called “sowing your wild oats”. Most people have to go through it and this is the age when she should be doing it. She’s probably only been dating for a few years, so she wants to explore the world and see what else is available. In the process she will grow and become an adult.
Attempting to hold onto her would be futile. She would eventually start to resent you. Remember, if you love someone, set them free. It’s not just a song but a universal truth. If you give her the space she needs, she may eventually decide you’re the one she wants to be with. If you try to hold on, she will definitely decide you’re not the one she wants to be with.
Monday, May 28, 2007
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
Why Don't Guys Like To Shop?
QUESTION:
What is your take on men who refuse to go into stores that are targeted for women (i.e. Victoria's Secret, Wet Seal)? Is it because they’re macho?
ANSWER:
What would I call a man that didn’t want to go with his girlfriend to women’s clothing stores? I’d call him: a man! This has nothing to do with being macho. There are two types of men: the ones that love to go shopping with their girl and see her try on different outfits and the ones that prefer to see the outfits after she has bought them. Don’t judge him for it and don’t try to force him to join you. How would you feel if he wanted you go to Home Depot or Pep Boys with him? Exactly!
Men are goal oriented and the thought of just wandering around a mall looking, trying things on and possibly not even buying anything doesn’t make sense to them. Instead, for women, it’s therapeutic. We LOVE to shop! Take a girlfriend or go alone.
What is your take on men who refuse to go into stores that are targeted for women (i.e. Victoria's Secret, Wet Seal)? Is it because they’re macho?
ANSWER:
What would I call a man that didn’t want to go with his girlfriend to women’s clothing stores? I’d call him: a man! This has nothing to do with being macho. There are two types of men: the ones that love to go shopping with their girl and see her try on different outfits and the ones that prefer to see the outfits after she has bought them. Don’t judge him for it and don’t try to force him to join you. How would you feel if he wanted you go to Home Depot or Pep Boys with him? Exactly!
Men are goal oriented and the thought of just wandering around a mall looking, trying things on and possibly not even buying anything doesn’t make sense to them. Instead, for women, it’s therapeutic. We LOVE to shop! Take a girlfriend or go alone.
Friday, May 11, 2007
Should I End It With A Married Man?
QUESTION:
I’ve been dating a married but separated man for over 6 months. When we first met he was separated from his wife of 8 years for 2 months. We really connected and enjoy dating each other. I’m taking it slow due to the circumstances. He has made no effort to file for divorce or even move his wife’s things out. She does not know of me and she wants to work things out with him-he does not. I know he cares a lot for me but I don’t want to be a rebound. Should I end it?
ANSWER:
Ughhh! What is it with you women who date married men? Aren’t there enough single men to go around? How would you feel if you were separated and wanted to reunite with your husband but he was doing (oops, I mean dating) someone else? People that are married should be left alone to either work things out or go their separate ways without third parties (that would be you) interfering.
Let’s look at the facts: He hasn’t filed for divorce, he hasn’t moved out his wife’s belongings, and he hasn’t told his wife about you. Sounds to me like he just wanted to take a break from being married for a while. He wanted to pretend he was single again, knowing that he could go back to his wife when he was ready. Should you end it? Hell yeah!
I’ve been dating a married but separated man for over 6 months. When we first met he was separated from his wife of 8 years for 2 months. We really connected and enjoy dating each other. I’m taking it slow due to the circumstances. He has made no effort to file for divorce or even move his wife’s things out. She does not know of me and she wants to work things out with him-he does not. I know he cares a lot for me but I don’t want to be a rebound. Should I end it?
ANSWER:
Ughhh! What is it with you women who date married men? Aren’t there enough single men to go around? How would you feel if you were separated and wanted to reunite with your husband but he was doing (oops, I mean dating) someone else? People that are married should be left alone to either work things out or go their separate ways without third parties (that would be you) interfering.
Let’s look at the facts: He hasn’t filed for divorce, he hasn’t moved out his wife’s belongings, and he hasn’t told his wife about you. Sounds to me like he just wanted to take a break from being married for a while. He wanted to pretend he was single again, knowing that he could go back to his wife when he was ready. Should you end it? Hell yeah!
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